你這句話,我最喜歡了.如果父母親肯放下身段,和孩子對話.彼此之間有深刻的溝通,那小孩子也比較不會變壞.父母親,不能老用自己的觀點去強壓小孩.

   我有時和一位賣鹹酥雞的老板聊天.在我心中,這位老板還好沒結婚.不然,他的小孩不是大好,就是大壞.但是相同的是,對於家長的印象,爛到極點.

  他的心態就像暴君一樣,只有他的話才對.別人的話都錯.

about 陪 kids, i have some different opinions...

1. kids at teen, they need space of their own, 陪 is not the best way to train then to become independent.

2. the role of parents should be to provide guidance,  to set the rules and to see that rules are followed. 

3. all kids will challenge the authority of parents and it's normal but there are some authority of parents that should not be allowed challenged such as parents have the right to expel kids when they reach 18 if kids don't behave to the satisfaction of parents.

4 all parents should prepare to expel their kids when they are 18 if their kids are out of control. there are laws and police force to teach them lessons when parents failed.

5. showing you love and care about their well being but don't forget you are the parents and they need to show the respect to you.

6. never try to be their best friends because you have a very important job to do... parenting.

7. you can be their best friend when they reach adulthood and become independent.

Not everyone has time to 陪 kids, if you don't have time you need to lay down your rules clearly and make sure they understand the reason and consequence if they violet the rules.

showing your love and care about their success will make all the difference too.

unfit parents are unfit parents, no execuse.

i told my son very clearly when he was 17 or 18 and getting rebelious... that i don't need a son if it's not a good one.

also i told him that ...don't bother to come home if you uses drug because i'll kick your ass and throw you out. 

and i meant it.

the result.... i've got an almost perfect son that i'm very proud of....

自從有小朋友到現在，一直也是抱著儘量陪的心態...
因此減少了與朋友的聚會、公司的活動...等等
但從來沒有覺得是犧牲...因為陪伴他們是件很快樂的事!!

雖然小朋友現在還小，不知道爸爸媽媽花這麼多時間陪他們
但看到他們現在對我們的依賴感...真的覺得一切都是值得的~~

只是一直提醒自己要能拿捏的住"愛"跟"寵"的那條線
希望小朋友們長大後，能有正確的價值觀及想法~~
不要變壞，也不要變成凡事都要靠爸媽的小孩!!!

　加入ｕｄｎ最讓我欣賞的就屬這篇了，一直以來我自認算是做的

不錯的爸爸了，但與子女間總覺還是少了些什麼，今天算是開了竅

，受益良多，感謝！感謝！我說媽媽呀！妳更要看才是．

 
您這篇實在是值得大大推薦.^^　孩子的成長衹有一次，有些父母想二全其美，自己努力沒天沒夜地打拼，再把賺來的錢送子女去學才藝，或往安親班，補習班送．．．

但長年下來，竟然發覺離子女愈來愈遠了．．．．子女不感激父母為他們的打拼付出，反而”你忙你的，我做我的”，思想及言語上的交集愈來愈少．

孩子真的很需要親情，不是別人及金錢能夠代替．^^

從小我們就陪著小孩成長！

如我的小女兒從小學電子琴和鋼琴，

在打基礎的前幾年，同班一共六個人，

只有我老婆在裡面從頭陪到底，

小朋友的學習情況如何一清二楚，

兩個小朋友晚上做功課，我們也一定陪在旁邊看書，

不會馬上問馬上解答，

還記得清楚老大小一開始時被老師認定為"阿達"，

因為他什麼都不會，(我們不讓他讀幼稚園，所以沒學到很多東西)

也才知道老師根本沒有按照進度施教，

他直接從基本的注音符號跳到課文了，

連拼音都不教(他認為小朋友應該都在幼稚園學到了)

老婆花了兩個星期的時間從頭教起，

第一次段考時考了一個全班第一的其中一個(小一的題目太簡單了)

在高中要考大學時，老婆怕小孩時間花太多在功課上讓他休息，

誰知小孩的回答是：媽再讓我算一下，這題數學很有趣！

所以：親人何需渡！只需要陪！

小朋友一樣，老人也一樣！

還有另一句：何需千山萬水朝菩薩，家中就有一個真菩薩！