As a Buddhist practitioner, we just have to be very patient. 要很有耐心. 不斷告訴自己, 不管外面多麼亂, 我都要維持內心的清淨.
If our attention is completely pulled outward, the state of our mind will be entirely dictated by our surroundings. Thats why we should always retain at least 50% of our attention within, either with our body or with our mind.
I always find that being aware of the breath energy inside my body is very helpful when I am facing stressful situations. Its fun to watch the breath energy in our body, the so-called Qi. When you are immersed in monitoring the balance of Qi in your body, 不但四大變得調順, 心也變得乾淨起來 ---- 雖然外面還是一樣地亂糟糟.
1樓. 世間 我2026/06/30 16:55照顧爸爸時
就等著看醫生怎麼說。不要讓自己太累！
應該想：爸爸身體狀況就是會起起落落，爸爸的心率就是會不整，爸爸就是會睡不著，爸爸的血氧濃度就是會低。這是正常，不是不正常。我們繼續觀察爸爸的身體狀況，但是毋需把自己捲進去。就好比是長江東流入海，如果我們要想長江西流上青海，只有製造自己無謂的煩惱。
把怎麼去照顧爸爸的身體交由行一的醫生去做決定。懂得如何休息，將我們的心照顧好，才有足夠的精力來配合醫生提供對爸爸最好的照顧。
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照顧病人或是老人，真的是無上的功德。因為佛陀所講的老、病、死，歷歷在前，不斷地為我們開示我們未來無可避免的命運。如果我們能夠即時拿來思維的話，將來我們面對老、病、死的時候，就可以比較坦然。
像現在爸爸狀況比較好了，我們覺得心中比較輕鬆、愉快，我們就可以如此觀照：如果我看到爸爸狀況變好了，心中有多麼地高興，那麼在爸爸狀況變壞了之後，心中就一定會相對地有那麼多的憂慮和不忍。不斷的如此思維，就會看到無常真的是很苦，感覺到人生的無奈，因此願意學習放下對順境和逆境的執著，用平常心來面對人生的起起落落，心繫解脫，無復汲汲於世間的種種追求。
We will all go through similar processes when we approach the end of our lives. We have witnessed so many people suffer and struggle; they did not prepare themselves for illness, aging, and death while they were still healthy enough. Then, the question we should ask is: 我們自己是否準備好病、老、死呢? That is something we should reflect upon again and again.
What we can help our father is limited due to his karma; but there are still a lot of things we can cultivate for ourselves. Don't let the opportunity slip away before it is too late to help ourselves.
