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一個平凡人的不平凡人生 (悼詞) An Ordinary Person with an Extraordinary Life (Eulogy)
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今天是告別美玲的日子,謝謝諸位親朋好友撥空前來參加,齊聚一堂,向她說一聲再見。在過去的幾天裡,我以為我已經做好了讓自己心理上變得更堅強的準備,但我剛剛才發現,不得不向她說再見是我一生中做過的最艱難的事情。

我和美玲相識、相知、相守四十三年。在1980年的秋天,因為家父在台北榮總入院,我從美國中斷學業趕回台灣,她正好在那個病房服務,因此而有缘認識。等父親病情好轉之後,我鼓起勇氣追她,幸得她的青睞而答應我的求婚,跟隨我回美繼續完成學業,接著就業,然後東遷西徙,直到定居在洛杉磯為止;這期間她不僅相夫教子,並同時完成了自己的夢想,在美國繼續從事白衣天使的註冊護士工作。

美玲自幼家境並不寛裕,養成了刻苦耐勞的習慣。身為么女,卻並未被寵壞,反而因為母親身體不好,從懂事後就要分擔主要的家務事。國中畢業後本來可以上省立台南女中,她為了減輕家裡負擔,選擇了公費的省立台南護校學習一技之長,以便早日成為護士幫助家計。俗語常說的「窮人的孩子早當家」,正是美玲最好的寫照。

她是一個真正的professional,一刻都閒不住,每天過得很紮實,但嫁给我後卻跟著我吃了很多苦。然而她總是把吃苦當成吃補,甘之如飴。她剛到美中的伊利諾大學香檳分校時,正值隆冬,大雪紛飛,對於一向成長在亞熱帶台灣的她,是個很大的考驗。可是她二話不說,也不等時差的調整,第二天就將我壞掉的腳踏車修理好,然後自己騎著它找事去了。等我晚上回到家後,才淡定的對我說:「我在一家養老院找到事了,週末開始上班。」她初生之犢的勇氣實在可嘉,真的嚇了我一跳。後來她又再接再勵,找到了一個白天褓姆的工作。那時我的奬學金每月才500美元,光房租就去了210美元,生活上總是捉襟見肘,入不敷出。有了她這個生力軍相助,令我毫無後顧之憂,得以全力衝刺我的學業。她的辛苦投入,讓我如期完成了學業,並在職場裡順利地踏出了第一步,的確是居功厥偉。

最讓我感動的是,她常不顧己身安危地保護我。她剛美國的那個冬天,伊利諾州降下了有史以來最大的雪。一個週末我在學校園裡做實驗到天亮,不料連夜降了一場暴風雪,將整個校園包括我的車子給埋了,讓我動彈不得。美玲知道以後心急如焚,也顧不得路上仍然刮著強風暴雪,她很快地準備好午晚餐包好,再穿上雨衣雨鞋,一步一腳印地,踩著過膝的積雪,給我送飯。由於風雪太大,刮在臉上非常刺痛,加上她又要保護懷中的便當,多半時候她都是倒退著走的。平常要半小時的路程,她在風雪中走了兩小時才到。等她到達時,全身僵硬,雙手雙腳都已不屬於她的了,她卻虚弱地説没事没事。我一面幫她按摩暖身,一面不禁淚眼盈眶;她為了先生,可以義無反顧,雖天寒地凍,吾往矣。人妻的執著,就是這麼令人心疼和不捨。

我畢業後雖在華府就職,她卻無法報考該州的執照,只能在家帶著剛出生不久的大女兒小慧,讓她英雌毫無用武之地,心情之鬱卒可想而知。我看她整天失志,悶悶不樂,當下決定轉換跑道,擧家遷至洛杉磯,於是我到聖塔莫尼卡上班,她則可以報考加州的執照,從此如魚得水一般,這才活了過來。就在我們迎接兒子世杰來到的當兒,她也考上了執照,同時展開了她在西洛杉磯漫長的護士職業生涯。在我職場順利的時候,夫妻兩人通力合作,胼手胝足,開源節流,積少成多;在我職埸低潮時,她也不動如山,做我的後盾,甚至多兼了幾個agencies,直到我東山再起才稍喘口氣。我曾從事不同的行業,她都堅守自己的崗位,並且默默地支持我,從來都沒有抱怨過。她勞心勞力的付出,省吃儉用的積蓄,維持了家計的正常運作,也促進了這個家的發展,一路走來,始終如一。

美玲曾在兩個孩子仍然嗷嗷待哺時,為了兼顧生活和照顧他們,在自家中開設了家庭托兒所,每天與奶瓶尿片為伍,不但做出了口碑,而且同時結交了許多好朋友,到現在都還保持聯絡。我還記得有一天我提早回家時,看到了一幅溫馨的畫面:所有的小朋友都在地毯上整齊的躺成一排換尿片吸奶瓶,等待家長來接,非常整潔、生氣勃勃而有朝氣,真是令人難忘。傍晚時家長一個個來接。她也有條不紊、一件件地報告今天所發生的事,再把孩子交到他們手上。如此一團和氣,讓家長們都放心,回家後也省心,這時候連孩子們的哭聲聽起來都像是美麗的音符。

家裡的男孩子總是比較好動,在成長過程中不免意外頻頻,但是由於美玲專業的訓練與她過人的膽識,每回都能逢凶化吉,轉危為安。兒子4歳時,就已經活蹦亂跳的。有一回週六夜晚,他在沙發上跳來跳去,一不小心失足,整個人面朝咖啡桌撞去,嘴巴剛好落在桌緣,把兩顆大門牙撞鬆與牙齦形成垂直之勢,當場血流如注,門牙還搖搖晃晃的。兒子當然哭得呼天搶地的,地毯也血跡斑斑,甚為駭人。美玲在廚房聽到落地聲和哭聲,衝到客廳一看,她臨危不亂,當機立斷。要兒子不哭、不動並打開嘴巴。只見她用姆指和食指緊緊抓著兩顆門牙,迅速地往下扳直了,再使勁往上一推,往裏一送,此時聽見喀嚓一聲,門牙一下子就到了定位。過了一會兒她鬆開了手,兩顆門牙完好如初,剩下牙齦處還沾有血痕。這時兒子停止了哭泣,盯著媽媽,好像剛看完一場神奇的魔術秀,眼眶裏的淚水未乾,仍在燈下閃爍著。隔天牙醫在電話中大讚她的處置,雖然不是永久齒,也是值得保留的。其他尚有數不清的例子,我家小朋友能够平安順利地長大成人,美玲是他們的守護神,絕對是功不可没。

在孩子先後上學後,美玲開始專注於家庭訪問護士的職場生涯。因為她喜歡這個行業的彈性上班時間,可以兼顧接送兩個小孩,所以就選擇了它,而且做得有聲有色,樂此不疲,三十幾年如一日。她有時帶孩子去病人家裡,順便給他們機會教育。看看濫用藥物者的後果,對孩子來說,是一個最好的身教和警惕。

當她看完一天的病人回家後,更不能閒著,還要準備一家人的晚餐和明天的便當,中間還得抽空打電話給明天的病人預約時間。吃完晚餐後,接著又必須整理白天的工作報告輸入電腦,以及準備明天的資料和補給,一直忙到深夜方休。像這樣子雖然每日的行程滿檔,她卻從不喊累,精神抖擻,週日週末皆是一致,全天候地為家人和病人奉獻,非但是家人的中流砥柱,也帶給病人親切和溫暖。她的家庭醫師Dr Charles曾在最近寫給她的感謝狀中估計,在美玲一生中至少曾經照顧過一萬個病人,而在這些受益的患者當中,我看過他們寫給她服務部門的無數謝卡,也因此受到公司數不淸的表揚。從他們真心的描述中可以看出美玲將病人看成是自己家人一樣的照護。她常常一面替他們打針換藥,一面耐心地傾聴老人家的訴苦。不分種族身分,不分老少貴賤,她都是一視同仁,一體看護,受到同儕一致的推崇和病患誠心的愛戴,她真是一位在人間救苦救難的活菩薩。

 

她在下班以後常常輪到 on-call,有時夜裡病人家裡出了狀況,找不到護士去處理,她就得親自出馬。不少次要到治安不好的區,那時我就得開車護送她去。三更半夜,我在車上等,看她進入病人家中,甚為淡定,我卻忐忑不安,替她捏了一把冷汗。心想這個行業真的累人,叫她不要再半夜出門,可是她說病人及家屬都對她很好,要我不用擔心。她就是這樣的一個人,時時替人著想,卻忘了自己的安危和辛苦。

美玲一邊要上班,一邊又要照顧家庭小孩,可説是蠟燭兩頭燒,別人會分身乏術,她卻安排得面面俱到,無縫接軌。從孩子出生、養育、接送、升學、就業、結婚、買房、到孫子出世,她都一肩扛起,成為這個家最大的靠山。我還記得,我們的女兒和外孫女,在出生後的滿月内都很不好帶,常常啼哭終夜,驚動四鄰。四十年前,她一面背著、哄著女兒,一面幫我敲打畢業論文,嚎啕聲和鍵盤聲共譜成一首人生難忘的樂章;多年以後,我們兩老去幫女兒做月子,為了讓產後哺乳的女兒充分休息,她值夜班,整晚抱著嗚咽不止的孫女疼之惜之,唯恐驚醒女兒,足足有一個月之久。人説母愛偉大,我則認為祖母愛更令人動容,何況美玲是兩者兼備。

美玲一生倥傯,但是做事有計劃,有步驟,一切都在她的運籌帷握之中。她臨走時對我説,她已經完成了她的夢想,更培養了兩個優秀的孩子,而且成家立業,幸福美滿,她很滿意她的人生,走得没有遺憾。我記得俩老一同奔波籌劃兩個兒女的婚禮的情景,彷彿才昨天一樣,怎麽就説走就走,不讓她享點清福呢?在整理她的遺物時,發現了兩雙非常可愛全新的球鞋,想是打算在以後悠閒歲月旅遊裡派上用場的,看了令人鼻酸。女兒建議入殮時給她穿上,希望她得以在天上健步如飛,自由自在。

身為美玲的先生,早就深刻地體會到她對事業的執著和對家庭的付出。但是在她四月底開始生病後,輪到我自己來做家事和照顧她時,才驚覺到她的貢獻遠超過我的想像,連想複製她的做法都跟不上她的腳步。原來家中千絲萬縷的事務,她都分門別類、處理得井井有條,而且她都記得一清二楚,鉅細靡遺。即使她玉體欠安,仍然是心明如鏡,毫不稍減她的思路。

美玲病前就處處為別人著想,病後更是如此。她生怕成為別人的負擔,多半時忍著痛,盡量不要去驚動周遭照顧她的人,包括醫院的護士,家人以及私人的看護。她就是這樣的人,只會付出,不求回報,也不麻煩他人,即使是在生病、需人照顧的時候。常見她在夜裡忍著劇痛,自己摸黑吊點滴、測血糖、打針、服藥,如廁,樣樣自己來,看得我心如刀割,感動得眼淚都奪眶而出,那個夜裡嬌小但是巨大的身影,用自己的方式在教育他人,如何與病魔搏鬥,是我們生命的導師!她一辈子處世低調,只求把每天該做的事情做好、做得圓满,看似平凡,但盡顯偉大。在過去四個多月中,我從照顧她的過程裡,向她學習了許多人生的哲理,她是我的英雄、我的偶像。我要向她致敬,並且說聲謝謝,妳辛苦了!

美玲在1980年代的初期戀愛、結婚,生子,然後在新大陸成家立業、生根茁壯、開枝散葉,她早已認定這裡就是她的家。記得她在世的時候,很喜歡羅大佑的「戀曲1980」。我想在這裏稍微改編一下,用我的破嗓子唱幾句,以表達我對她無限的敬意,以及深深的思念:

妳曾經對我說  妳永遠愛著我
愛情這東西我明白  但永遠是什麼
姑娘妳別哭泣  我倆還在一起
今天的歡樂將是明天永恆的回憶
啦啦啦啦啦啦 啦啦啦啦啦啦
今天的歡樂將是明天永恆的回憶

什麼都可以拋棄  什麼也不能忘記
現在妳說的話都只是妳的勇氣
春天刮著風  秋天下著雨
春風秋雨多少海誓山盟隨風而去
啦啦啦啦啦啦 啦啦啦啦啦啦
親愛的記得妳說妳我永遠不分離

安息吧,美玲。妳在世間救苦救難,超前完成了妳的任務。現在菩薩另有所用,將妳召回了天上。妳只是遠離了疾病苦痛,但並沒有離開我們;妳堅毅的笑容仍然與我們常在。

靈前妳最喜愛的蝴蝶蘭開得正耀眼,恰如妳蘭心蕙質的容顏。今天不管我們是多麽的毋甘,妳已心無罣礙,無牽無絆,駕著祥雲朶朶,飛上了西天。但教心似金鈿堅,天上人間會相見。美玲妳且等等,天堂已經離我不遠,我們往前、往後都會團圓。

別愛妻 洛城聞笛寫於满七

四十三年眷戀深
今朝撒手謝紅塵
來世若有同船日
結草銜環報前恩

Today is the day to say goodbye to Meilin. I would like to say thank you to all our relatives and friends for taking the time to come and gather together to say farewell to her. I thought in the past few days I prepared myself to be mentally stronger, but I just discovered that having to say goodbye to her is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.

 

Meilin and I have known each other for forty-three years. In the autumn of 1980, because my father was hospitalized in the Taipei Veteran General Hospital, I interrupted my studies in the United States and rushed back to Taiwan. She happened to be serving as a RN in that ward, so I got to know her. After my fathers condition improved, I mustered up the courage to pursue her. Fortunately, she favored my proposal and agreed to marry me. Thereafter, she followed me to return to the US to continue my studies, then started a job, and moved from coast to coast until we settled in Los Angeles. Not only did she help her husband and raise two children, but she also fulfilled her dream which is working as a registered nurse during her stay in the US.


Meilins family was not well-off since she was a child, and she developed a habit of hard work. As a girl, she was not spoiled. On the contrary, because her mother was in poor health, she had to share the main housework since she became sensible. After graduating from junior high school, she could have attended Tainan Provincial Girls High School. In order to reduce the burden on her family, she chose the publicly funded Tainan Provincial Nursing School to learn a skill so that she could become a nurse as soon as possible to help the family. Just as the saying goes, "The children of the poor become independnt early" is the best portrayal of Meilin.


She is a true professional, never idle for a moment, and lives a solid life every day. However, she suffered a lot after marrying me. But she always regards hardship as nourishment and enjoys it as sweet snacks. When she first arrived at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, it was the middle of winter with heavy snowfall. It was a big challenge for her, who had grown up in subtropical Taiwan. But without saying a word or waiting for the jetlag to adjust, she repaired my broken bicycle the next day and then rode it to find a job. After I got home in the evening, she calmly said to me: "I found a job in a nursing home, and I will start working tomorrow." Her courage like a newborn calf was so commendable, it really shocked me. Later, she kept working hard and found a daytime job as a nanny. At that time, my scholarship was only US$500 per month, but the rent alone already cost US$210. I was always struggling to catch up for living. With her as a new force to help me, I have no worries and can go all out for my studies. Her hard work and dedication allowed me to complete my studies as scheduled and take my first step in the workplace smoothly, which is indeed a great contribution.


What touches me most is that she often protects me regardless of her own safety. The winter she arrived in the United States, Illinois had the heaviest snow ever. One weekend, I was doing experiments on the school campus until dawn. Unexpectedly, a blizzard fell overnight, burying the entire campus including my car, leaving me unable to move. Meilin was very anxious when she found out, and she didnt care that there was still strong wind and snow on the road. She quickly prepared lunch and dinner, put on her raincoat and rain boots, stepped on the knee-deep snow step by step, and delivered food to me. Because the wind and snow were so strong that it stung her face very much, and she had to protect the lunch in her arms, she walked backward most of the time. It usually takes half an hour to travel, but she walked for two hours in the wind and snow. When she arrived, her whole body was stiff and her hands and feet no longer belonged to her, but she weakly said it was okay. While I was massaging her to warm her body, I couldnt help but burst into tears. For the sake of her husband, she would not hesitate. Even if it was freezing cold, she would still go. The persistence of a wife is so heartbreaking and hard to let go.

 

Although I worked in Washington after graduation, she was unable to apply for a license in the state. She could only take care of her newly born eldest daughter Xiaohui at home, leaving her with no place to use her talents. You can imagine how depressed she felt. I saw that she was frustrated and depressed all day long, so I decided to change careers and moved my family to Los Angeles. So I went to Santa Monica to work, and she could apply for a California license. From then on, she was like a fish back in water, and she came back to life. Just as we welcomed our son, Shijie, she became licensed and began her long career as a nurse in West Los Angeles. When my career was going well, the two of us worked together to increase revenue and reduce expenditure. When my career was at a low point, she remained immovable and supported me, even took on several agencies until I made a comeback, then she could be relieved. I have worked in different industries, and she has always stuck to her position and supported me silently. She has never complained. Her hard work and frugal savings have maintained the normal operation of the family and promoted the development of the family. She has been consistent along the way.


When our two children were still waiting to be raised, Meilin opened a family nursery in her home in order to take care of them and help out family income simultaneously. She worked with bottles and diapers every day. Not only did she gain a reputation, she also made many good and life-long friends. I still remember that one day when I came home early, I saw a warm picture: all the children were lying neatly in a row on the carpet, changing diapers and sucking bottles, waiting for their parents to pick them up. They were very clean, lively and energetic. Its really unforgettable. Parents came to pick them up one by one in the evening. She also reported what happened today in an orderly manner, and then handed the child over to them. Such a harmonious atmosphere makes parents feel relieved and worry-free when they return home. At this time, even the childrens cries sound like beautiful notes.


The boys in the family are always more active, and accidents often occur as they grow up. However, due to Meilins professional training and her extraordinary courage, she is able to turn danger into safety every time. When my son was 4 years old, he was already jumping around. One Saturday night, while he was jumping up and down on the couch, he accidentally lost his footing and bumped into the coffee table. His mouth just landed on the edge of the table, knocking his two front teeth loose and perpendicular to his gums. There was a lot of blood on the spot, and his front teeth were still wobbly. Of course, my son was crying profusely, and the carpet was stained with blood, which was very horrifying. Meilin heard the sound of landing and the boys crying in the kitchen, and rushed to the living room to take a look. She was calm and decisive in the face of danger. She first asked my son not to cry, not to move, and to open his mouth. I saw her holding the two front teeth tightly with her thumb and index finger, quickly straightening them downwards, and then pushing them upwards and pushing them in. At this time, a click was heard and the front teeth suddenly resumed their original position. After a while, she let go. The two front teeth were intact, but there were still blood stains remained on gums. At this time, my son stopped crying and stared at his mother, as if he had just watched a magic show. The tears in his eyes were still shining under the lamp. The next day the dentist praised her treatment on the phone. Although the tooth was not permanent, it was worth keeping. In addition to this incident, here are countless other examples. My children grow up safely and smoothly because Meilin is their guardian angel, which is absolutely indispensable.

 

After our children went to school, Meilin began to focus on her career as a home visiting nurse. Because she liked the flexible working hours of this industry, which allowed her to take care of two children, she chose it, and she has done a great job and enjoyed it for more than 30 years. She sometimes takes her children to patients homes to give them opportunities for education. Looking at the consequences of drug abusers is the best example and warning for children.


When she returns home after seeing patients for a full day, she cant be idle. She has to prepare dinner for the family and lunch for tomorrow, and she also has to take time to make appointments for tomorrows patients. After dinner, she had to sort out the days work reports and input them into the computer, and prepare materials and supplies for tomorrow. She was busy until late at night. Although her daily schedule is full like this, she never feels tired and is full of energy. She is the same on weekdays and weekends, dedicating herself to her family and patients around the clock. She is not only the mainstay of her family, but also brings kindness and warmth to her patients. Her family physician, Dr. Charles, estimated in her recent letter of thanks to her that Meilin had taken care of at least 10,000 patients in her lifetime. Among these patients who benefited, I have read countless letters they wrote to her department and she received countless praises from the company for this. From their sincere descriptions, it can be seen that Meilin cares for her patients as if they were her own family. She often gave them injections and dressings while patiently listening to their complaints. Regardless of race, age or status, she treats everyone equally and takes care of them. She is unanimously praised by her peers and sincerely loved by her patients. She is truly a living Bodhisattva who saves suffering in the world.


She often takes the on-call turn after getting off work. Sometimes there is a problem at the patients home at night and no nurse can be found to deal with it, so she has to take action herself. Many times we have to go to areas with poor security, and I have to drive to escort her there. In the middle of the night, I was waiting in the car and watched her enter the patients home. She was very calm, but I was uneasy and broke into a cold sweat for her. I thought this industry was really tiring and asked her not to go out in the middle of the night again, but she said the patients and their families were very nice to her and told me not to worry. She is such a person, always thinking about others, but forgetting her own safety and hardship.


Meilin has to go to work and take care of her children at the same time. It can be said that this candle is burning at both ends. For others it would be too busy to handle, but she arranges everything in a seamless manner. From the birth, raising, transportation, further education, employment, marriage, buying a house, to the birth of a grandson, she took everything on her shoulders and became the biggest supporter of the family. I still remember that our daughter and granddaughter were very difficult to take care of during the first full month after they were born. They would often cry all night, disturbing the neighbors. Forty years ago, while she was carrying and coaxing her daughter, she helped me type my graduation thesis. The sound of babys wails and the sound of the keyboard composed an unforgettable piece of music. Many years later, the two of us went to help our daughter during the first month after our granddaughter was born. To let our daughter, who was breastfeeding after giving birth, get enough rest, Meilin worked the night shift and held our whimpering granddaughter in her arms all night, fearing to wake her up, for a full month. People say maternal love is great, but I think grandmothers love is even more touching, not to mention that Meilin possesses both.


Meilin has been unruly throughout her life, but she has plans and steps to do things, and everything is under her control. Before her passing, she told me that she had fulfilled her dream, raised two excellent children, and had a happy family. She was very satisfied with her life and had no regrets when she departed. I remember the scene of the two elders running together to plan the weddings of our two children, as if it was just yesterday. Why did they just take her away without letting her enjoy some happiness? When sorting out her belongings, I found two pairs of very cute and brand-new sneakers. I think they are intended for her to be used during leisurely travels in the future. It makes me cry to see them. My daughter suggested that she should wear them when she was buried, hoping that she could walk freely in the heaven.


As Meilins husband, I have long been deeply aware of her dedication to her career and to her family. But after she started to fall ill at the end of April, and it was my turn to do the housework and take care of her, I was shocked to realize that her contribution was far greater than I imagined. Even if I wanted to copy her approaches, I couldnt keep up with her. It turned out that she had divided all the intricacies of the family affairs into categories and handled them in an orderly manner, and she remembered them all down to the last detail. Even though she was in poor health, her mind was as clear as a mirror and her thoughts did not slow down.


Meilin was always considerate of others before she got sick, and even more so after getting sick. She was afraid of becoming a burden to others, so she mostly endured the pain and tried not to disturb those around her, including hospital nurses, family members and private caregivers. She is such a person who only gives without asking for anything in return and does not bother others, even when she is sick and needs care herself. It was common for her to endure severe pain at night. She would go in the dark to get IV infusion set up, test blood sugar, give injections, take medicines, go to the toilet, and do everything by herself. It made my heart feel like being cut by a knife, and I was so moved that tears bursted out of my eyes. That petite but huge figure in the night , using her own way to educate others on how to fight the disease. She is the mentor of our lives! She has been keeping a low profile all her life, just trying to do what she should do every day well and perfectly. It may seem ordinary, but it is full of greatness. Over the past four months, I have learned a lot of life philosophy from her while taking care of her. She is my hero and my idol. I want to pay tribute to her and say thank you for your hard work!

 

Meiling fell in love, got married, and had children in the early 1980s. Then she started a family and her career in the new continent. She had already decided that this place was her home. I remember that when she was alive, she liked Luo Dayous "Love Song 1980" very much. I would like to slightly adapt it here and use my broken voice to sing a few lines to express my infinite respect for her and my deep longing for her:

You once told me that you will foreve love me
I understand love, but what is it forever?
Dont cry my dear, we are still together
Todays joy will be tomorrows eternal memory
La la la la la la  La la la la la la
Todays joy will be tomorrows eternal memory

Everything can be abandoned and nothing can be forgotten
What you say now is just your courage
It’s windy in spring and it’s raining in autumn.
How many spring breezes and autumn rains? The vows of eternal love are gone with the wind
La la la la la la  La la la la la la
My dear, I remember you said you and I will never be separated

Rest in peace, Meilin. You saved people in need in this world and completed your mission ahead of schedule. Now the Bodhisattva has another purpose and has called you back to heaven. You are just away from the pain of illness, but you have not left us; your persevering smile is still with us.

Over here your favorite Phalaenopsis was in full bloom, just like your orchid-like face. No matter how reluctant we are today, you are already full of clear mind, free from ties and obstacles, flying up to the Western Sky on the auspicious clouds. As long as our hearts are as strong as gold, we will meet in heaven and on earth. Wait for me, Meilin, as heaven is not far away from me. We will be reunited in the future, just as we did in the past.
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16樓. Celine_公私兩忙暫離
2023/11/25 16:29

洛城兄,如您所述,尊夫人確實不平凡 閃

自我有海外任職經驗之後,才知道離鄉背井,不管是求學或工作,沒有以往家人/故友的社會網絡,另一伴的支持是多麼重要 崇拜

我的碩班同學曾分享,她做好熱騰騰的便當開車送到孩子們的學校;其他女同學都嘖嘖稱奇,自忖做不到。讀您描述尊夫人在風雪中走路兩小時給您送便當,真覺這是世間難見的愛 閃

是的。每一思及她對家人無私的愛和對我毫不保留的付出,心中總是一陣絞痛和萬般的不捨。希望她已自由自在、無憂無慮,不必再為世間俗事所羈絆。她的關懷與操心,是我們永恒的回憶。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/12/03 23:44回覆
15樓. 芳草
2023/11/22 12:32

牽手一世情,充滿了愛,很令人動容。

作為一世的靈魂伴侣 (soul mate),在命運之前,也只能低頭。雖然它可以讓人神兩隔,卻不能命思念分手。即使到地老天荒之後,仍是無時不刻,長相左右。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/23 14:10回覆
14樓. 亦言亦詩
2023/11/19 21:17

世界之美好

正是因爲有尊夫人這樣的人

平凡而美麗的人生


以良知,寫文字(Write with conscience)
真善忍,人性之美(Truthfulness, Compassion & Forbearance)
謝謝亦言亦詩的美言贊詞。把稀鬆平常的事做得圓滿,就是一個不平凡的行爲;如果世人皆能如此,勿因善小而不為,會將這個亂世變成治世。我把内人的事蹟和大家分享,就是期盼有朝一日,這個世界會因為有更多人的腳踏實地,讓它變得更美麗。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/21 22:17回覆
13樓. Flying Eagle
2023/11/18 14:45

尊夫人奉獻一生,把家人照顧得妥妥貼貼。對於病人也是發揮了南丁格爾的精神,視病如親。您該感到驕傲,有此賢妻兼摯友。她的心願是家人過得幸福,請您節哀,在沒有她的日子裡也努力幸福下去!



謝謝Flying Kite的激勵,感銘在心。我想振作起來,可是生活失去了重心就是一團亂,没有了舵的船就只能在原處打轉!我先一步步的來,先帶著她的照片去旅行,多看看這個世界,也好好想想下一步要怎麽走,等到下一次團圓的日子。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/19 12:36回覆
12樓. 愛馬
2023/11/12 15:33

成功非偶然,一步一脚印,美玲對家人的愛與付出,讓人動容。

她留下美麗的故事與永恆的典範,給世人最好的啓發。

相愛的兩人,先走的人是幸福的,傷悲思念獨留另一人。

洛城聞笛請保重,勇往向前未來的日子。

家庭失去棟樑支柱時,會感到倉皇無助;伴侶無法白首偕老時,會令人進退失據。唯有努力使自己保持忙碌,無暇緬懷過去,以免低迴消沈。迷失了自己。如果累了,就遙望西天,寄語白雲;夜不成眠,就振筆直書,對話斯人。食不知味,就想方設法,應對調整。未來的日子雖然深不可測,即使失去老伴,也要獨自面對,走完人生最後的一哩路。


愛馬睿智的鼓勵,給美玲不平凡的一生下了最好的評語,謝謝您。
洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/16 15:47回覆
11樓. 愛唱 藍喉太陽鳥
2023/11/05 16:20

她是如此優秀 請節哀 


謝謝您!仍然感覺非常的不捨,還有無際無涯的懷念。彷彿她並没有離開我們。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/06 11:48回覆
10樓. 人間
2023/11/03 17:51

為了讓她心安.請要活得如她仍在.

但.請別忍著不掉淚.眼淚是思念的傳遞.她會知道掉淚後的你將因能想著她而堅強.

看著.看著.我也哭了.心裡有不捨的人也是幸福的

🙏人間的心有戚戚焉。化悲傷成思念,轉失落為堅强,學問大矣哉!我會持續不懈的努力,幫自己克服困難,走出陰影,修好人生這個打擊力道出乎意料之外的功課。有文友們的鼓勵真好! 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/04 06:12回覆
9樓. tzi
2023/11/03 14:58
這兩天看了你的文章

讓我一直很難過

我們很幸運都有一個好伴

但我也不知道 我是否有勇氣

在冰天雪地裡走兩個多小時

為心愛的人送一個要保溫的便當.

您要為愛妻 和孩子們 孫輩們

寫作 散步 放空自己,

時間 雖是良藥,但是會痛很久…

我用失去母親的心情….

過了許久…還是 感到痛 和不捨,

加油,網上的朋友都會陪著你….🍀
感恩tzi發自肺腑的留言,對整理我雜亂無章的思緒很有助益。少年夫妻老來伴,老伴先走怎麼辦?我要多花點時間把自己的日常生活照顧好,保持健康。然後帶著她的照片去旅行,造訪她還没看過的世界,然後把心得記錄下來。未來的日子裡,雖然會很想她,但一定不會讓時間停格。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/04 06:01回覆
8樓. 和煦秋陽(贖罪。愛相隨)
2023/11/03 00:39

請節哀    活著的人要好好活著

我和先夫  相守也是43年......

人都有這一天  往前看 找些事做   把剩下的日子好好的過   

感謝秋陽分享過來人的經驗,誠非當事者不知其痛有多深。以前家裡分工,一向依賴慣了,懶散慣了,今後没有了依怙,當何以自處?我要聽您之勸,將自己的生活重整,一兼二職,保持忙碌的生活,好好地走下去。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/04 05:47回覆
7樓. Charles Lin
2023/11/02 14:43
請節哀順變。
謝謝Charles兄的關心和支持。我癡長美玲五歲,怎麽説都是我應先走的,想不到命運如此難測,年輕的先被召回了,才教人萬分的不捨。 洛城聞笛 (淡淡三月迎杜鵑)2023/11/03 23:41回覆
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