談到我與父母的相似之處，其實可以從外在到內在說起。

首先，在外貌與體質方面，我應該比較像母親。尤其是皮膚，我和她幾乎如出一轍。母親到了現在這個年紀，臉上依然細緻白嫩，幾乎沒有黑斑；而我這一生中，臉上也從未長過痘痘，沒有明顯的斑點或瑕疵，膚色始終白皙。這一點，常常是別人對我印象最深刻的地方。朋友們經常驚訝地問：「你的皮膚怎麼這麼好？」我總是笑著說，大概是遺傳自母親吧!

當然，我也明白，外表一半來自天生，一半來自後天。除了感謝母親給我的好底子，我自己也很注重保養，例如勤於清潔、適度保濕、避免過度曝曬，並養成擦防曬與早晚保養的習慣。這些看似平凡的小事，長久累積，也成了維持狀態的重要關鍵。

除了外表，我和母親在個性上也有相似之處。我們都算堅強、獨立，不太容易受人左右。母親曾對我說過一句讓我印象非常深刻的話：「我們又不需要到別人的飯鍋裡去拿飯，有什麼好怕的？」這句話的意思其實很簡單——只要一個人能夠自立，不依賴他人，就沒有什麼需要畏懼的。這樣的價值觀深深影響了我，也成為我面對人生的重要支撐。

母親不管年紀多大，內心總帶著少女情懷，從我懂事開始，我常聽她講年輕時的往事，即便現在98 歲了，她還在回憶跟我爸爸相親新婚的故事，讓我暗中訝異！我到這個年紀也是還有許多少女情懷，有朋友跟我說我還在做夢的年紀。呵呵，這是不是母親的遺傳？

至於我像父親的地方，則更多體現在性格與生活態度上。我和父親一樣，都偏向樂觀、帶點「阿Q精神」。父親在中晚年曾經歷過經濟上的挫折，但他似乎總能保持笑容，很少陷入悲觀或失去意志。他習慣看事情的光明面，而這樣的態度，也在不知不覺中影響了我。遇到困難時，我也傾向往好處想，不容易長時間沉溺於負面情緒。

此外，我不像母親那樣固執與執著，反而比較像父親，個性較為隨和，對很多事情都能適度妥協，也比較容易放下。

在生活習慣上，我與父親也頗為相似。我們都喜歡旅行、喜歡往外走動，不太能忍受一成不變的生活。記得父親年輕時就常往外跑，母親還曾笑說他在家裡坐不住。我想，我多少也繼承了這樣的性格，總喜歡到處看看、走走，從不同的地方感受世界。

同時，我和父親也都喜歡運動、喜歡戶外活動，而母親則相對喜歡待在家中、較少活動。另外，在閱讀與資訊吸收方面，我也比較像父親——喜歡看書、看報紙、關心外界；而母親則較能安靜地發呆、沉浸在自己的世界裡。對我來說，如果什麼都不做地坐著，反而會感到不安，總覺得需要閱讀或學習一些東西，才會有踏實感。

回頭看來，一個人受到父母的影響，往往是潛移默化的。有些是天生的性格，有些則是在成長過程中耳濡目染，自然而然地內化為自己的一部分。

而如今，當我走過人生大半，也開始在孩子身上，看見這樣的延續。有時候，我看到他們身上出我自己的影子；有時候，又彷彿看見他們父親的影子。

至於他們未來會走出怎樣的人生，或許正如那句老話所說——兒孫自有兒孫福，一切終究還是要看他們自己的造化。

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In What Ways Am I Like My Mother and My Father?

When I reflect on myself, I can clearly see that I have inherited different qualities from both of my parents, in both appearance and personality.

In terms of physical traits, I am more like my mother. We share a similar skin type—both of us have naturally smooth and fair skin. Even now, my mother’s complexion remains delicate, with very few dark spots. As for me, I have never really had problems with acne or noticeable blemishes throughout my life. Many people have commented on my skin, especiallyou years ago, often asking how I maintain it. I usually smile and say that I probably inherited it from my mother. Of course, I believe that appearance is partly natural and partly the result of good habits. In addition to genetics, I have also taken care of my skin by keeping it clean, using lotion regularly, and protecting it from excessive sun exposure.

Beyond appearance, I am also similar to my mother in personality. We are both strong and independent, and we are not easily influenced by others. I remember my mother once told me something that left a deep impression on me: “As long as we do not depend on others for our living, there is nothing to be afraid of.” This simple idea has guided me throughout my life. It taught me that independence gives a person confidence and freedom, and I have carried this belief with me ever since.

On the other hand, I am more like my father in my attitude toward life. Both of us are naturally optimistic. Even when my father faced financial difficulties in his later years, he remained cheerful and rarely lost hope. He always chose to see the bright side of life. I find that I have the same tendency—I do not stay discouraged for long, and I try to approach challenges with a positive mindset.

I am also less stubborn than my mother and more easygoing like my father. I tend to be flexible and willing to compromise, which helps me maintain a more relaxed outlook on life.

In terms of lifestyle, I share many similarities with my father as well. We both enjoy traveling, being active, and spending time outdoors. My father loved going out and could never sit still at home for too long, and I find that I am very much the same. I enjoy exploring new places and do not like a routine or unchanging life. In addition, we both enjoy reading and staying informed, while my mother is more content with quiet moments at home. Personally, I find it difficult to sit idle—I feel more fulfilled when I am reading or learning something new.

Looking back, I realize that a person is shaped by both inherited traits and life experiences. Some qualities are inborn, while others are developed through growing up in a particular environment.

Now that I am older, I sometimes see these same patterns reflected in my own children. At times, I catch a glimpse of my father in them; at other times, I see my mother. As for their future, I believe it is ultimately up to them to create their own paths in life.