塞巴斯汀．榮格（Sebastian Junger）是美國戰地記者兼作家。他在年輕時走訪美國各地，並寫下所見所聞。在1980年代的某一天，他來到佛羅里達礁島群，走進一個洗手間，看見牆上都是充滿仇恨憎惡的塗鴉，而且大多針對古巴移民。但其中有一段留言引起他的注意，顯然出自古巴人的手筆：「感謝上帝，這個國家其餘的人都很熱情又有愛心，在1962年歡迎我來！」榮格提到：「在那間男洗手間的牆上，我看到了美國最糟糕的一面，也看到最溫暖的一面。」

對於這種帶有仇恨意味的信息，我們該如何反應呢？箴言提供了明智的忠告。所羅門（這卷書大多由他編纂）提到兩個相仿的描述：「愚昧人的口吐出愚昧」（15章2節）；「惡人的口吐出惡言」（28節）。不過，第15章一開頭所羅門就對這種有害信息提出對策：「回答柔和使怒消退」（1節）；「說安慰話的舌頭是生命樹」（4節，新譯本）。耐心的回答往往是重要關鍵：「義人的心，思量如何回答。」（28節）

如果我們祈求上帝，幫助我們在開口說話、動筆寫字或敲擊鍵盤之前，仔細思量我們的話語，而不是用充滿敵意或仇恨的言語攻擊別人，上帝會如何使用我們所說的話呢？箴言告訴我們：「話合其時，何等美好。」（23節）

As a young man, journalist Sebastian Junger traveled the United States and wrote about it. One day in the 1980s, he entered a restroom in the Florida Keys and found hateful graffiti scrawled on the walls. Most of it targeted Cuban immigrants. But one message, apparently from a Cuban, stood out. It read, “Thank God the rest of the people in this country are warm and caring and welcomed me in ’62.” Junger observed, “The very worst things about America were on that men’s-room wall, and the very best.”

How are we to respond to the poisonous messages we so often encounter? The book of Proverbs offers sound counsel. Solomon, who compiled most of the book, brackets chapter 15 with similar imagery: “the mouth of the fool gushes folly” (v. 2), and “the mouth of the wicked gushes evil” (v. 28). The chapter begins, however, with the antidote to such venom: “A gentle answer turns away wrath” (v. 1). Solomon also noted, “The soothing tongue is a tree of life” (v. 4). Always, a patient response is key: “The heart of the righteous weighs its answers” (v. 28).

How might God use our words when we ask Him to help us weigh them before our mouths, our pens, or our keyboards spew venom and vitriol at our fellow humans? As the proverb says, “How good is a timely word!” (v. 23).