費斯汀格法則（非常經典）
Feisinger's Law (very classic)
美國社會心理學家費斯汀格（Festinger）有一個很出名的判斷，

The American social psychologist Festinger has a well-known judgment.

被人們稱為“費斯汀格法則”：

It is called "Fistinger's Law":

自己是否好好處理，難以掌控的10%意外，絕對影響後續90％發生事情的好壞。

Whether or not you handle it well, and 10% of accidents that are difficult to control, will definitely affect the success or failure of the next 90%.

生活中的10％是由發生在你身上的事情組成，

10% of life consists of things that happen to you.

而另外的90％則是由你對所發生的事情如何反應所決定。
The other 90% is determined by how you react to what happened.
換言之，生活中有10%的意外，是我們無法掌控的，

In other words, 10% of accidents in life are beyond our control.

而另外後續的90%卻是我們能掌控的事情。
The other 90% follow-up is something we can control.
費斯汀格在書中舉了這樣一個例子。

Feistinger gave such an example in the book.

妻子怕被水淋溼了，就隨手拿過去放在餐桌上。

When his wife was afraid of getting wet, she took it on the table with her hands.

兒子起床後到餐桌上拿麵包時，不小心將手錶碰到地上摔壞了。
When the son got up and ran to the table to take bread, he accidentally bumped the watch to the floor and broke.

卡斯丁疼愛手錶，就照兒子的屁股揍了一頓。

Justin loved his watch and beat his son's ass.

然後黑著臉罵了妻子一通。

Then he blackened his wife and gave him a pass.

妻子不服氣，說是怕水把手錶打溼。

The wife is not convinced that she is afraid of the water to wet the watch.

卡斯丁說他的手錶是防水的。
Justin said his watch is waterproof.

於是二人猛烈地鬥嘴起來。

So the two violently bickered.

一氣之下卡斯丁早餐也沒有吃，直接開車去了公司，

At one point, Justin did not eat breakfast and drove directly to the company.

快到公司時突然記起忘了拿公文包，又立刻轉回家。
Suddenly I remembered forgetting to get my briefcase when I arrived, and I immediately returned home.

可是家中沒人，妻子上班去了，兒子上學去了，

But no one at home, his wife went to work, and his son went to school.

卡斯丁鑰匙留在公文包裡，他進不了門，只好打電話向妻子要鑰匙。
Justin's key remained in his briefcase. He could not enter the door and had to call his wife for a key.

妻子慌慌張張地往家趕時，撞翻了路邊水果攤，

When his wife rushed home and hurriedly knocked over the roadside fruit stand,

攤主拉住她不讓她走，要她賠償，她不得不賠了一筆錢才擺脫。
The stall owner pulled her away from her and asked her for compensation. She had to lose a sum of money to get rid of it.

待拿到公文包後，卡斯丁已遲到了15分鐘，捱了上司一頓嚴厲批評，

After getting his briefcase, Justin has been late for 15 minutes and has smashed his boss’s harsh criticism.

卡斯丁的心情壞到了極點。下班前又因一件小事，跟同事吵了一架。
Justin's mood went sour. Before work, because of a small incident, I had a fight with my colleague.

妻子也因早退被扣除當月全勤獎，

The wife was also deducted for the full attendance prize due to early retirement.

兒子這天參加棒球賽，原本奪冠有望，卻因心情不好發揮不佳，第一局就被淘汰了。
The son participated in the baseball game this day. He had hoped to win the championship. However, his poor performance did not play well and the first game was eliminated.

在這個事例中，手錶摔壞是其中的10%，

In this case, the watch broke 10% of it.

後面一系列事情就是另外的90%。
The latter series of events is another 90%.

都是由於當事人沒有很好地掌控那90%，

It's all due to the fact that the parties are not in control of that 90%.

才導致了這一天成為“鬧心的一天”。
It has caused this day to become a "noisy day."

試想，卡斯丁在那10%產生後，假如換一種反應。

Just think, after the 10%, Justin, if you change the reaction.

比如，他撫慰兒子：“不要緊，兒子，手錶摔壞了沒事，我拿去修修就好了。

For example, he soothes his son: "It doesn't matter, my son, the watch is broken. It's okay. I'll just go and fix it.

”這樣兒子高興，妻子也高興，他本身心情也好，那麼隨後的一切就不會發生了。
"The son is happy and his wife is happy. He himself is in a good mood, so everything will not happen afterwards."

可見，你控制不了前面的10％，

Obviously, you cannot control the first 10%.

但完全可以通過你的心態與行為決定剩餘的90％。
But it is entirely possible to determine the remaining 90% through your mindset and behavior.

在現實生活中，常聽人抱怨：

In real life, people often complain:

我怎麼就這麼不走運呢，每天總有一些倒霉的事纏著我，

How can I be so unlucky? There are always some unlucky things around me every day.

怎樣就不讓我消停一下有個好心情呢，誰能幫幫我？
How can you stop me from having a good mood? Who can help me?

這都是一個心態問題。其實能幫助自己的不是他人，而是自己。

This is a question of mindset. In fact, it is not others but themselves that can help themselves.

倘若瞭解並能熟練運用“費斯汀格法則”處事，一切問題就迎刃而解了。

If you understand and can skillfully use the "Fistinger rule", all problems will be solved.
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生活中，看似互不相干的事情，却可能有着某种内在联系，你的一个小小举动不仅会影响自己，也会影响到周围的每一个人。 美国著名社会心理学家费斯汀格曾经提出一个很出名的判断，被人们称为“费斯汀格法则”：生活中10％是由发生在你身上的事情组成，而另外90％则是由你对所发生的事情如何反应所决定。