6樓. cpbass萍兒

2009/02/20 23:42

以前
我媽媽都是「勉強」我上合歡山玩
我記得我都是臭臉一路上山下山
爸爸總在旁人討我歡心
可是我就是不領情
如今回憶,那段在家的日子不再了

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5樓. 肇

2009/02/19 17:46

珍貴

一個青少年願意在父親桌子前

跟父親長談兩小時

本身就是一件很珍貴的事情了

至於是妥協，還是勉強...

一點也不重要了...!!!

真美的親子關係。

4樓. Happiness

2009/02/18 12:59

The bond and the bound are magic links
There is one scene from a family comedy(Cheaper by the Dozen2 )moved me deeply.
The conversation between Kate ( Mom) and Lora( Daughter) about the name for the new born baby. Lora and Bud have decided to name their son after their dad (dad-in-law)—Tom. The reason of naming their son, Tom, moved me.
Kate: You did a good job, honey. Really good job.
Kate: So any ideas on names?
Lora: I think we’re going to go with “ Tom.” “ Cause you taught us that there’s no way to be a perfect parent, but a million ways to be a really good one. And you’re about as good as they get. Say hi to Grandpa. Go on. Hey Tom.
Tom: Welcome to family.
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I like the happy ending—Tom and Kate dancing joyfully with a soft but romantic music, accompany the following meaningful lines from Kate who is a mom with wisdom.
Kate: Letting go is the hardest thing you can do as a parent. You have to settle with the past, engage in the present and believe in the future. That vacation at Lake Winnetka reminded Tom and me that we’re always learning as parents, and that the bond is forever. Even as the kids grow up and venture out on their own. We’ll always be with them and they’ll always be with us. Because life is a voyage that‘s homeward bound.
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Thanks, HooDoo. Your article serves as a magic link and reminds me of the wonderful conversations and remarkable lines in the film of Cheaper by the Dozen2. It is never easy to be a good parent since every kid is unique with his/her style and mission to fulfill. But it will be great to learn with the kids and grow wiser and become thoughful and helpful with time. The beauty of the family as well as the value of the family results from the unconditioned bound as well as conditioned bond. However, I do believe the bond and bound are the magic links which engage kids and parents forever.

3樓. 小河

2009/02/18 04:40

心靈財富

你給女兒的是一份心靈財富！

好重要！

有一天我去一個孩子那裡，做音樂治療。

那孩子快八歲了，沒有口語能力，腦性麻痺。

她的爸爸觀察到她很沮喪，隨時要哭的樣子，

先把她抱起來放在腿上，跟他說話：

在學校時，我跟妳的特教員談到妳的學習，

我告訴她妳這幾個月因為（他說了一個名詞，我不懂），因此妳無法有明顯的進步，

是這話讓妳不舒服，讓妳沮喪嗎？

我跟特教員談，因為她很關心妳。

之後，等孩子情緒緩和了，爸爸才退出房間。

我感動到現在！

看到你這篇，讓我想起這位爸爸。

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應該要走很遠的路,為與春天的花而相遇……

Il faut marcher de très longues routes

Pour rencontrer les fleurs du printemps

2樓. DrComposting

2009/02/17 11:41

「勉強」、「妥協」與「接受」

女兒這麼大了還與你們這麼親，真好。我這幾年接觸了些一胎化的小孩，深感父母能給小孩留下最珍貴的東西其實是一個正確的人生觀。不瞭解「勉強」、「妥協」與「接受」的小孩，一生都難有愉快的生活。被寵壞的孩子，其實長大後是最不快樂最可憐的孩子。

1樓. divagirl

2009/02/17 10:58

敬佩你的耐心
真的很感動！
以前在加州時曾帶過幾年的慈濟少年團（小三到八年級，九到十二年級的則是班上助教）。最常碰到的問題不外是溝通；當父母的報怨子女不聽他們的；當子女的報怨父母總是強迫他們。。。
如果大家都能有你這般的智慧〈勉強對話〉我想父母子女間的摩擦會更少。
謝謝你的分享，希望更多的父母能看到並分享到你的智慧。

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