過去為了保持我們的關係和維持連結

我常常保持沉默

還沒有搞清楚爭吵的根本原因

就認定是因為彼此想法不同

 

可是我如果避開對話

從不溝通了解你的看法

我們就會落入互相猜測

誤解愈來愈深

甚至產生仇恨

 

有時那比爭吵還糟糕

 

重點是

我能不能學會用增進理解的方式

解決衝突和不同的意見

即使我們最後沒有共識也沒關係

 

因為在一場有意義的對話之後

我們也許會更了解彼此

更尊重彼此

甚至更親密

雖然我們依然看法不同

 

這和逃避對話

不深入了解對方

是完全不同的

 

 

In the past to keep our connection and hold the bond

I often stayed silent

Before I even understood the root of our arguments

I assumed it was because we thought differently

 

But if I avoid the conversation

And never seek to understand your view

We fall into mutual guessing

Misunderstandings grow deeper

And even turn into resentment

 

Sometimes that is worse than a fight

 

The key is

Can I learn to use a way that deepens understanding

To resolve conflict and differences in opinion

Even if in the end we have no consensus it is fine

 

Because after a meaningful conversation

We may understand each other better

Respect each other more

And even feel closer

Even though we still disagree

 

This is entirely different

From avoiding the conversation

And never truly understanding the other person