To Be Direct or Indirect？直率還是委婉？
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WHICH IS BETTER
To Be Direct or Indirect？
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Hello, friends.
Welcome to "Let’s Talk in English."
My name is Esther,
and my name is Garrett. Today is a "Which is Better?" lesson, and the name of our lesson is "To Be Direct or Indirect."
So our question today is:
Which is better? Is it better to be direct when you're communicating with someone, or indirect?
To be direct means that you say what you think; you tell others directly.
Exactly, you’re very clear about what you mean.
If you're indirect, you're not quite as clear, but maybe you are being a little more careful with what you say.
Probably because you don't want to make the other person feel bad.
Now, there are good and bad things about both of these.
Right, when you are indirect, you might want to be more polite, or you don’t want to hurt their feelings.
That’s why you try to be more indirect. Now, friends, let’s go to our reading.
When we work with other people, is it better to be direct or indirect?
Being direct makes it easy for people to understand you.
When you make your point clear, people know your opinion.
It can also save time when you get right to the point.
But when you’re indirect, you choose your words carefully.
You are polite, and you don’t make others upset or hurt their feelings.
Caring about others' feelings makes a school or office a nice place to be.
Thanks, Esther. Well, today we will talk about which is better, and friends, you can think about your answer.
We’ll also try to find the answer to our "Find It" question.
Our question is: What did Greg share with James?
What did Greg share with James?
Find the answer in our lesson. Now here’s Sonia.
James說Greg在生他的氣。
Greg is upset with me.
形容詞 upset 就是生氣的。
原來是James很直白地對 Greg 講了真話。
I was direct and told him the truth.
形容詞 direct 就是直率的。
聽到James直接告訴Greg他的點子很糟，
這裡就說：所以你傷了他的感情。
So you hurt his feelings.
動詞 hurt 就是傷害。
James覺得他只是想把自己的想法說清楚。
I want to make my point clear.
形容詞 clear 就是清楚的。
不過 Julie 勸他，如果不謹慎地選擇說話的用詞，
就可能會傷害別人的感情。
But when you don’t choose your words carefully,
you can hurt other people’s feelings.
Carefully 就是謹慎的。
Well, now Greg is upset with me. Why is Greg upset with you?
He shared his new idea with me.
He was really excited about it.
And what did you say?
I was direct and told him the truth. I said,
"That’s a bad idea."
He didn’t like that.
So you hurt his feelings.
I was giving him my honest opinion.
Here we hear that James thinks Greg is upset with him.
That word "upset" is kind of like the word "angry,"
right, but maybe not as strong as "angry."
When you’re upset, you’re not happy about something,
and today James thinks that Greg is upset with him.
Right, and friends, we are going to go to Sonia now.
James走進了休息室就說：
這下Greg在生我的氣了。
Well, now Greg is upset with me.
句型 be 動詞加形容詞，後面再加上 with 某人或某事，表示對某人或某事感到如何。
來看例句：
The boss is not very happy with those workers.
老闆對那些工人不太滿意。
或是：
Are you okay with the idea?
你可以接受這個點子嗎？
另外，這些詞 with 也可以表達與某人一起：
Do something with someone，
就是與某人一起做某事。
來看例句：
Will you go to the night market with me?
你要和我一起去夜市嗎？
或是：
Sophie went to Spain with her family.
Sophie 和她的家人一起去了西班牙。
Thank you, Sonia. Well, today James is talking to Julie,
and Julie wants to know why Greg would be upset with James.
And the answer to that also leads us to the answer to our "Find It" question.
Our question is: What did Greg share with James?
The answer is: He shared his new idea with James.
He shared his idea.
He told James what his idea was,
and he was really excited about it.
Greg was very excited about it,
but James was very direct.
James told Greg what he thought. He did not go around in a circle. He was very clear.
He was direct.
He told him, "That’s a bad idea."
So he really did tell him what he was thinking,
and it sounds like Greg wanted to hear what James’ opinion was,
but Greg didn’t like what he heard, right?
And that’s why James thinks that Greg may be upset with him. Yes.
When you are direct, you are very clear. You tell people what you think,
even if it’s not what they want to hear.
So that’s why Julie says James hurt Greg’s feelings. Right?
Here, the word "hurt" means you feel bad about something; your emotions get hurt.
Kind of like when you get hurt physically,
but in a different way.
You feel bad; you hurt his feelings.
And "you hurt his feelings" is today’s calendar phrase.
You hurt his feelings.
You hurt his feelings.
You hurt his feelings.
你傷了他的感情
Why is that boy crying?
"You hurt his feelings."
I told him the truth. "You hurt his feelings."
Was I too direct?
Yes. "You hurt his feelings. You were not very nice."
Why are you crying?
"You hurt my feelings."
You hurt his feelings.
You hurt his feelings.
你傷了他的感情
Well, we heard one more sentence from James there.
Well, we heard one more sentence from James there.
He says, "I was giving him my honest opinion."
So did James do anything wrong?
He honestly told Greg what he thought about Greg’s idea.
Right, that’s your opinion. Your opinion is what you think about what someone else has told you or said.
But James was very direct.
He told him that that was a bad idea.
So did Greg not want to hear that?
Should James have said that it was a great idea?
Well, we need to know how James said it. Maybe if you say it in a mean way,
someone will get hurt if you are being direct. Yeah,
it’s kind of hard to say what is right and what’s not.
James should not have told him that it was a great idea if he thought it was a bad idea.
But maybe it’s not always best to just say, "That’s a bad idea."
Right? We’re going to find out more.
But now it’s time for us to take a break.
Don’t go away. We’ll be right back.
Let’s talk in English.
Fast away, welcome back to the show, everyone.
Do your friends ever ask you for an opinion on some idea that they have?
Right? And are you direct with them?
Do you honestly tell them your opinion?
If someone asks you for your opinion, you should probably give it,
but how you give it is another question.
Let’s get back to our conversation.
You could be indirect and say, "That’s an interesting idea,"
but his idea isn’t interesting or good.
He shouldn’t waste any more time on it.
"I wanted to make my point clear."
That’s fine, but when you don’t choose your words carefully,
you can hurt other people’s feelings.
Ah, true.
I don’t want to do that,
but it can also hurt others if you aren’t honest with them.
So Julie has a suggestion for James.
She thinks he could also have been indirect. Right?
This means she thinks James didn’t have to directly tell Greg what he was thinking.
She said, "You could be indirect and say, 'That’s an interesting idea.'"
Hmm.
So that’s not directly telling Greg what James is actually thinking,
but it’s not lying either.
It’s just saying a sentence that doesn’t mean a whole lot.
Right?
But James thinks that the idea wasn’t interesting or good,
and he doesn’t want Greg to waste any more time on that idea.
So James wanted to make his point clear.
He wanted to be really direct.
If you’re not clear in what you say in your opinions,
then someone might be wondering for a long time,
or they might not be sure what they should do, right?
So that’s why James was direct.
Now let’s go to Sonia.
James講話比較直，因為他想要清楚明白地表達他的觀點。
"I wanted to make my point clear."
使役動詞 "make" 表示使怎麼樣的意思。
句型 "make something" 或是 "someone" 加上形容詞，
表示使某事物或是某人如何。
來看幾個例句：
"I’ll make my speech short."
我會講短一點。
特別要注意的是，"make" 後面的人稱代名詞要用受格，
例如：
"How can I make her happy?"
我如何能使她快樂？
或是：
"I don’t want to make them angry."
我不想惹他們生氣。
Thank you, Sonia. Earlier, we talked about the word "clear." When you are speaking and you want people to know what you think, you need to be clear. This means you need to be sure they understand what you are saying. That’s especially important when you’re giving instructions. You want to be clear about what you want someone to do; otherwise, they might not do what you want them to. Right? I remember in PE class when our PE teacher told us about a game, he would always ask, "Are we clear?" That means, "Does everyone know the rules? Do you know what to do?"
Well, let’s get back to our conversation. Julie says, when you don’t choose your words carefully, you can hurt other people’s feelings. So even though you’re direct and clear, you can still hurt people’s feelings through what you say. Right? And if you are careful about how you do something, it means you think about what might happen. So you can choose your words carefully. This means you can pick what you will say in a careful way. So you might not just think about what your opinion is and how to say it, but how the other person might feel when you say it. James knows that this is true, and he doesn’t want to hurt his friend’s feelings, right? But he says that it can also hurt others if you aren’t honest with them, because maybe Greg will keep spending a lot of time on this idea when really it’s not a very good idea. Yeah, sometimes if we’re not direct and clear with each other, all of us are living confused lives. We’re not sure exactly what is right and good. It’s hard sometimes. We do need to be direct. Sometimes we need to be indirect, but we can always be kind to others.
Now, friends, let’s go ahead and review our keywords. Here’s our first keyword: direct.
Direct.
Brian is a direct person.
Clear.
Clear.
My boss always gives clear directions.
Carefully.
Carefully.
Carry the glasses carefully.
Upset.
Upset.
What is the teacher upset about?
Hurt.
Hurt.
Don’t hurt her feelings.
Friends, those are today’s keywords. You’re doing a great job, and now it’s your turn.
The keywords for today are: direct, clear, carefully, upset, and hurt.
Now it’s your turn to use them in a sentence. First one:
Thank you, you were very...
It’s an adjective that begins with a C.
Good job! Thank you, you were very clear.
Next:
Impolite people make me...
No one likes to feel this way.
You got it! Impolite people make me upset.
Next:
Her words...
Thomas.
Be careful with what you say.
Her words hurt Thomas.
Next:
Always drive...
You need an adverb here.
You’re right! Always drive carefully.
Last one:
Are you always...
When you talk?
Good job! Are you always direct when you talk?
Are you always so good at finding the correct words?
Join me again for your turn!
Well, now Greg is upset with me. Why is Greg upset with you?
He shared his new idea with me.
He was really excited about it.
And what did you say?
I was direct and told him the truth. I said, “That’s a bad idea.”
He didn’t like that.
So you hurt his feelings.
I was giving him my honest opinion.
You could be indirect and say, “That’s an interesting idea.”
But his idea isn’t interesting or good.
He shouldn’t waste any more time on it.
I wanted to make my point clear.
That’s fine, but when you don’t choose your words carefully,
you can hurt other people’s feelings.
True. I don’t want to do that,
but it can also hurt others if you aren’t honest with them.
One, two, let’s review.
David, are you a direct person?
Hmm, I think so. I like to be direct too,
but not too direct.
What do you mean?
If I’m too direct,
I could hurt someone’s feelings.
Can you give me an example?
Uh, sure.
You pretend you just got a haircut.
Uh, okay. Hey, look!
I just got a haircut. What do you think?
Aha! I think it looks really bad.
Ah, you hurt my feelings.
Well, that’s because I was too direct.
Let’s try again.
This time be honest, but don’t hurt my feelings.
Okay, I’ll try.
I’ll give you my opinion in a different way. So you start.
Okay. Hey, look!
I just got a haircut. What do you think?
Oh, wow.
So where did you get your hair cut?
I cut it myself.
Oh, I see. Well,
I have a friend who cuts hair. He does a great job.
Maybe you should ask him to cut your hair.
Hey, good job! You were honest but not too direct.
Thanks! So, David,
where do you get your hair cut?
Now, let’s review. Here’s your first question:
What shouldn’t Greg waste any more time on?
What shouldn’t Greg waste any more time on?
You can find the answer in conversation B.
He shouldn’t waste any more time on his idea.
Here’s our second question:
Are you more direct or indirect? Why?
Are you more direct or indirect? Why?
Let’s go to some of our friends and hear their answers.
Am I more direct or indirect? Why?
Hmm, well, sometimes when I give directions to my friends,
I’m too indirect. They get confused.
Maybe I should be more direct when I’m giving directions.
Am I more direct or indirect? Why?
Well,
it depends on who I’m talking to.
In some situations,
I might need to be a little bit indirect in order to be polite,
but I really like to make sure that I’m understood,
so maybe I’m more direct.
Am I more direct or indirect?
I’m usually more indirect
because I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.
So I try to say something in a nice way,
but once in a while I’m direct.
Then you better watch out!
Am I more direct or indirect? Why?
Well,
I am more direct.
I like to tell people what I think.
I also like to ask questions,
but sometimes I may ask too many questions,
especially when I travel.
So I have to be careful,
or people might think I may be a little disrespectful.
Am I more direct or indirect?
I would say that I am more indirect.
I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings,
so I choose my words carefully. For example,
if someone doesn’t do something right,
I won’t say, "You did it the wrong way."
That can make the other person upset.
Instead, I will say, "Here is a better way to do this."
Yes, sometimes we may need to be more direct,
but sometimes we should be indirect. It’s important
always to treat people kindly.
Yes, it is, friends. We’ll see you again tomorrow.
That’s right, here on
Let’s Talk in English.
Goodbye!
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