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| Polygamy can be a dirty word for most people. However, you are taught to love both of your parents, all of your siblings, all of your children, etc, but why only one wife? You can make indefinite money; acquire unlimited assets, no restriction for creations, etc, but only one spouse. Basically, monogamy is saying even if you are smart like Einstein, rich like a billionaire, you are no different than a homeless who can only have one. I think that is wrong. I think one should choose x number of spouses. X can be 1, or can be whatever. You should be the one to decide how many is enough, not government. By the way, it applies to women too. If a woman is capable to manage multiple men, by no mean, go for it. The challenges are: jealousy, favoritism, and fairness. With the proper education, I do believe we can fix jealousy. Just like you will teach your kids to share toys, and to be friend with multiple people. I also think love can fix favoritism. So, the most difficult is fairness. Can we stop someone so powerful (or talented) to have hundreds of spouses, like the old emperors? Well, we can't. Just like we can't stop anyone to live with multiple girls. However, the nature will stop them since just like food; you will stop eating when you are full. |
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Why people divorce, or better, how can we stop people divorcing? The prerequisite of divorcing is that people are married in the first place. So, what is marriage? In the early generations, marriage = LAW. The law is defined by the parents. In bible, marriage = LAW + love. The law is defined by God. For the non-Christian or non religious people, marriage = LOVE + law. The law is defined by the government. My focus is not much for the early generations. My focus is to seek the solution so people won’t divorce. Not to get married is one, but living together for a (long) period of time is like a marriage. We all know anything defined by the government can’t be perfect. The marriage laws are the reason for people getting divorces. Due to the law, we are trained to follow the one man one woman formula. The education, the media, and the society, are based upon the one-to-one relationship. The parents will tell you to love only one person. The media create many love stories based upon one couple. The society will crucify you if you don’t follow it. We are brain washed to think the only way or the best way for people to live together is one mate only. However, I think differently. I think people should be together as long as they love each other. We should have the freedom to decide how many mates to have. You may choose one-to-one, or you may choose one-to-many. Your spouse(s) also have the freedom of choosing one-to-one or one-to-many. Think about this, if you are born in a family with two fathers and two mothers, you are more likely to follow the same to have multiple mates. The education can teach us to live with multiple people. It shouldn’t be too difficult since we are taught to love all of your siblings, to love multiple friends, to share loves, etc. Why not expand into marriage? The challenges could be the jealousy, the favoritism, the ego, the tax, the fairness, etc. I would let lawyers/politicians figure out how to tax the polygamists. With proper educations, we should be able to control the ego and the unfairness parts. With love, I do believe it will resolve the issues of jealousy and favoritism. Now, you should ask, how could 1-to-many work, when today’s one-to-one relationships are in so much trouble? The main causes of divorce are: 1. affair, and 2. unhappiness. I do believe my solution can solve both issues. Simply put, with openness, affair won’t be necessary. With competitiveness, it will make your mate a better person. Yes, I have proof.
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1樓. 客旅貞吟2012/06/19 08:07爭論
這些可怕的爭論﹐ 使得我們盲目﹐ 根本看不到神原先創造我們﹐ 後來又救贖我們回歸其計劃裡﹐所要我們領受的生命祝福與工作。
離了神﹐ 我們真是陷于何等可怕驚恐的光景啊。
從一粒種子，一粒小小的要使自己快樂的種子，沒有好好澆灌，也不知那裡出岔，竟然會結成這樣的果實。那時也沒想到接下來會是如何，現在的光景絕不是那時想像得到的。現在再看，離神的路越走越遠，越來越黑暗，可怕至極！不知道要走到什麼程度，事情才會告一段落，如何落幕收場，猶拭目以待。為了一個家的潔淨，那一顆有毒的樹是該除去！ 萍 於 2012/06/19 10:59回覆
