自己也辛苦過一段時日, 講道理雖成效慢, 卻絕對久長

我一直覺得妳一定是這種媽咪, 溫柔的月橘

BTW, 這是本名嗎? 冒昧請問...

不要發脾氣。不是不要為小事發脾氣.  大聲斥責 is considered "abusive" in American culture.  You shall only raise your voice when there is danger, and the message has to be clear.  For the rest of situation, we should always keep normal voice.  I can't follow that completely, but I really feel in the period when 我大聲斥責 my kids more often, they tend to 發脾氣 more. 

I have been trained at my work, "Never raise your voice." 把別人也當個人看, I don't know where I left a message, it all comes down to the "ultimate respect."  I always remind my family and myself, try to respect people.  Before you raise your voice, think about how much you don't like when others raise the voice. Taiwan can be a much better place if most people learn to control our way of expression.  Scolding is not as effective as guidance.