My Dearest daughter & son,
After I lost temper last time talking to you I have done a thoroughly
review. I think after all this years I failed in many things. Among
them,controlling my short temper is one; and the other that I did not
make my self a raw model for your kids to follow.
 
I have tried to respect your entity as an individual.
I care about your future just like any good parents do. I have tried
to avoid interfering your personal life. If you tell me your private
life that is fine. I would like you to share my opinion.
The same applies to your personal finance. As away, I have tried
to avoid asking your income and I think that is your privacy.
 
The mansion your mother and I bought under your mother's & your
name was in fact part of our retirement plan. The fact is you are
living in that mansion most of the time and right now your mother
only stay few months of the year. I think it is all right for me to ask
the details of your mortgage. Particularly the closing escrow
statement is important for me to know where I am in arranging
the payment.

Your mother seemed unwilling to talk to you out of fearing you getting
mad. That is not right. I do not know if it is out of her initiative not to
tell me the loan process. There should be no secret in this regards
within the family. I just don't know where I am. I don't want this
issue to hurt our relationship.

I have tried to be a fair father. I am feeling that he who had been
together with parents most of the time knows and understand your
Mom and my characters. Living in the U.S. is hard. Your Mom and
I are just trying to make a living. Our only hope is that our retirement
life is not a big burden to you both.
 
Hope all is well with you and pass this letter to your mother.
Dad